Anxiety

How to Overcome Anticipatory Anxiety

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Calm down your worries about future events with Hypnotherapy

Is most of your worrying just anticipatory anxiety about the future, rather than concerns about what's actually going on now?

Do you get eaten up with dread about upcoming events and how they will turn out?

Your ability to imagine a goal in life, and to work out detailed plans to deal with obstacles, is a truly valuable resource. Deciding what you'll do if things go wrong is key to effective planning. It would be downright silly to assume everything will always go smoothly. Flights will be delayed, rain will fall on garden parties, people will forget what they were going to say, tomato sauce will get spilled over you...

It happens to everyone.

Too much thinking leads to anticipatory anxiety

The trouble is, when you spend too much time thinking too closely about everything that could go wrong, the famous mind-body connection goes into overdrive. Your worrying thoughts can trigger the actual physical emotions that would accompany those unfortunate events. Your heart rate rises, adrenaline floods into your bloodstream, and your body gets ready to face what it believes is a real and present danger.

When really it's all in your imagination.

Now obviously, it doesn't make sense to say you should just stop preparing for future events, and planning for negative eventualities, altogether. That would be likely to bring you some perfectly real (as opposed to imaginary!) difficulties.

What's needed is a way to think about eventualities (good or bad) calmly. A way to calm down any emotional response that gets triggered, so you can stay detached, make sensible plans, and then get on with your life.

And hypnosis is a brilliant way for you to do just that.

Hypnotherapy can help you calm down unnecessary fears

A Hypnotherapy session that will train your unconscious mind to instinctively calm down anxious thoughts about the future.

As you relax and listen , you'll notice that you

  • find yourself becoming much more relaxed about life in general

  • learn how to take command of your emotional responses

  • become more and more skilled at calming and quieting troubling thoughts

  • are no longer at the mercy of unpleasant emotions

  • can think much more clearly and effectively about helpful ways to prepare for upcoming events

  • enjoy life so much more.

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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How Hypnotherapy Can Help You With Stress And Anxiety

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Stress can be defined as a state we experience when there is a mismatch between perceived demands and our perceived ability to cope.

Stress can also be defined as an adaptive response by a body to change in the environment. Stress response, evolved to enable humans to deal with life-threatening dangers or stressors such as being confronted with a wild animal or perhaps a hostile human. Situations like this required action – the activation of stress response to wither stay and fight or to run away.

Today we hopefully won’t have to face the same dangers as our ancestors but the stress response to demanding situations we face is still with us and our mind and body still prepare for fight or flight when confronted with this equivalent of the wild animal.

This is where the problem may begin, as activation of the fight or flight response with no physical outlet, such as if we are stuck in a traffic jam and can’t fight it or flee it, or maybe an unfair confrontation in the workplace, where once again the response for action may be triggered but we cant vent it by fighting or running away without consequences we would rather avoid.

Perhaps both of these events and more are experienced on the same day, perhaps every day, and the stress builds within us until it can damage our health if a solution is not found

Stress isn’t always bad – the stress response was designed to help and protect us and some people even place themselves in stressful situations they know they can handle for excitement and ‘the rush’ as it is often called.

We all experience stress in different ways depending upon our personality type, conditioning and possible training.

When we face a stressor but perceive we have the ability to deal with it successfully a feeling of success and achievement can be gained. Getting the balance right between good stress to motivate us and encourage us to grow, and our ability to cope with the stress is possibly the key to remaining healthy, positive and active in whatever arena of life we find ourselves.

Our ability to cope with stress can be affected by our diet and the intake of good substances that out body needs to remain strong and flexible and to repair itself when needed. Also we should avoid anything that could cause us to be more stressed or weaker such as drugs, alcohol, smoking etc.

Finally, stress can be external, an event or situation that is causing stress, or internal, attitudes or emotions that lead to stress (anxiety, guilt, low self esteem, fear, etc).

What is the Fight/Flight Response? Why do we still have it?

The ‘Fight or Flight Response’ is a physiological reaction and is the body’s response to a stressor.

Changes in hormones prepare a person to either stay and deal with a stressor or to take flight/run away. This immediate state of alarm is when the body prepares to take action, and in this state a person will be extremely alert to their surroundings but also very anxious and possibly unable to concentrate.

The body will slow down systems not vital in responding to the stressor, such as the digestive system, which is why a person in a fight or flight situation may have a dry mouth and a nervous/upset stomach. The body will make other preparations such as improved cooling for the body as more energy is used and this will result in perspiration.

The fight or flight response is a very old and very basic response and has been with us for a very long time. It was originally a response to danger that would prepare our ancestors to fight the wild beast or the enemy who might suddenly threaten or confront them, or to take flight and literally run away from the danger.

This response is triggered when we send a message of alarm to a part of the brain called the hypothalamus. This area of the brain will then send a signal to the glands to release adrenaline, cortisol and endorphin into the blood stream.

Increased levels of adrenaline increase heart rate and blood flow which in turn brings extra oxygen and glucose to the muscles. Cortisol causes an increase in amino-acids and sugars in the blood.

Amino-acids are crucial for the repair and recovery of damaged tissues which may occur under stress and the blood sugar adds to the availability of glucose (fuel) for the body.

The release of endorphin, which is a morphine like substance only more powerful, provides the body’s natural tranquilizing system. Pain is blocked and a feeling of euphoria may be experienced, both helping to get the body through the situation it may find itself in due to stress.

We still have this response, as it is still necessary to prepare and protect us in times of alarm, such as being involved in an emergency situation of any kind, or being confronted with any form of potentially life threatening danger.

Once the initial stages of this fight or flight response are over, a person will have a psychological reaction to the stressor which will be based upon many variables including, personality type, conditioning, age, physical and mental ability, and their knowledge relevant to the situation to be dealt with.

It is very often the resulting symptoms of this fight or flight response kicking in that we tend to call a panic attack.. What actually happens is that we may be in a situation where we can’t fight or flight, such as a meeting or on a train, and so we become more and more anxious and may feel as though we will pass out, or be sick, or any one of a number of responses.

What often happens then, is we find we have a desperate need to urinate, and that is another way the subconscious mind will sometimes attempt to gain our attention and force us to leave the arena in which we find ourselves at the time.

It is normally the feeling of not being able to escape, and knowing that we might have this strong feeling to fight or flight that causes much of the anxiety and expectation of problems for most people who find they need help to overcome their problem.

Also, many people….no…that should be most people who suffer from panic attacks and anxiety will normally have the need for some Obsessive compulsive actions in their life…it can often be a type of coping, or controlling strategy.

Why hypnotherapy is totally different from any other form of therapy?

Hypnotherapy is different from any other form of therapy because of the way in which the therapy part happens while one is in hypnosis.

Put another way, hypnotherapy is a very effective combination of hypnosis, a trance or altered state of mind and deep relaxation, and the chosen therapy, which might be for example; suggestion therapy, REBT, energy therapy, regression, ego states therapy, neuro-linguistic-programming or hypnoanalysis.

Hypnosis allows an individual to enter a state of deep relaxation which in itself is a very useful therapy for combating stress. It also allows you to become calm and focused, as all parts of your mind work together and concentrate on solving the problem at hand, and therefore making the very best use of the chosen therapy as it is applied.

Why it is so helpful in cases of stress, anxiety and panic attacks?

Hypnosis is a state in which the conscious critical faculty is temporarily suspended or distracted and in which all parts of the mind work in harmony for the good of the whole being.

When in hypnosis an individual can become very relaxed and at the same time very aware and ‘sharp’, mentally focused.

For the computer literate, I would liken hypnosis to the ‘safe mode’ on a computer, where if a part of the system is acting up or malfunctioning, placing the system in safe mode allows for investigation and repair to be carried out safely while minimising the risk to the normal operating systems.

In some sports it would be like a ‘time-out’, where all parts of the team come together briefly to review the current state of play, to identify where poor choices may have affected the outcomes and to choose a new strategy to move forward with.

In the normal hurly burly of life we seldom have time to take a time out, or to go into safe mode to pull together our resources and to calmly take stock and plan our best way forward.

Hypnosis then, is a safe, relaxing state in which we can let go the tensions in and around you for a short period, and in which, if we desire it, a skilled therapist with many therapy tools, can guide you through the stages of investigation, discovery, planning and repair we may need.

Hypnotherapy therefore provides relaxation (and clients of good therapists are given various tools to learn self-hypnosis so they can find this deep relaxation for themselves) and is therefore useful at even this basic level, as a kind of first aid.

The good therapist will help you to find any repressed emotions, triggers and false instincts from the past that are a kind of out-of-date, erroneous, or maybe just no longer wanted or needed programming, that loops around once triggered to cause us much anxiety and feelings of panic, but we often don’t know why.

Following this, the wonderful power of hypnotic suggestion, Neuro-Linguistic programming and various other techniques will be used to provide new and efficient programming to support moves forward into a much more positive life with a better outlook on everything..

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

Avoiding Depression ~ Dealing With Burnout

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Our brains aren’t batteries but they can behave like batteries and get burnt out

We Are Often told To Push On Through or Simply Try Harder

However this can lead to burn out. .

When engaging in various multi-tasking activities or working for prolonged periods over a prolonged period of time, it is possible to over extend our brains. And then we can exhaust not only our physical strength but in order to conserve energy our brains in a very simplistic way will just refuse to cooperate and do what we ask of them, this is called burn out or anxiety depression.

In this day and age due to outside pressures maybe from management or even from family responsibilities, exposure to continual bad news, themselves and also internal worries and anxieties many people cannot fathom the idea of relaxing and taking what’s now called down time.

Continual exposure to stressful situations, like caring for an ill family member, working long hours, or witnessing upsetting news related to politics and school safety can lead to this stress condition.

When the brain starts to go into to burn out they can then add to these pressures by starting to worry about “not working” and often push even harder

What is burnout?

Coined by the psychologist, Herbert Freudenberger in the 1970s, burnout describes a severe stress condition that leads to severe physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion.

Much worse than ordinary fatigue, burnout makes it challenging for people to cope with stress and handle day-to-day responsibilities.

People experiencing burnout often feel like they have nothing left to give and may dread getting out of bed each morning. They may even adopt a pessimistic outlook toward life and feel hopeless.

Burnout doesn’t go away on its own and, if left untreated, it can lead to serious physical and psychological illnesses like depression, heart disease, and diabetes.

Who gets burnout?

Anyone who’s continually exposed to high levels of stress can experience burnout. Helping professionals, such as first responders, doctors, and nurses are especially vulnerable to this health condition.

Along with career-induced burnout, people caring for children can also have this type of extreme exhaustion. A recent study found that, just like doctors and business executives, mothers and fathers can also burn out.

Personality characteristics like needing to be in control, perfectionism, and being “Type A” can also increase your risk of burnout.

What are signs of burnout?

Worried that you may be experiencing burnout but unsure of the signs? We’ve compiled a list of symptoms that you can use as a guide.

  • Exhaustion. Feeling physically and emotionally depleted. Physical symptoms may include headaches, stomach aches, and appetite or sleeping changes.

  • Isolation. People with burnout tend to feel overwhelmed. As a result, they may stop socializing and confiding in friends, family members, and co-workers.

  • Escape fantasies. Dissatisfied with the never-ending demands of their jobs, people with burnout may fantasize about running away or going on a solo-vacation. In extreme cases, they may turn to drugs, alcohol, or food as a way to numb their emotional pain.

  • Irritability. Burnout can cause people to lose their cool with friends, co-workers, and family members more easily. Coping with normal stressors like preparing for a work meeting, driving kids to school, and tending to household tasks also may start to feel insurmountable, especially when things don’t go as planned.

  • Frequent illnesses. Burnout, like other long-term stress, can lower your immune system, making you more susceptible to colds, the flu, and insomnia. Burnout can also lead to mental health concerns like depression and anxiety.

The 12 stages of burnout

Unlike a cold or the flu, burnout doesn’t hit all at once.

Psychologists Herbert Freudenberger and Gail North have outlined the 12 phases of this stress

  • Excessive drive/ambition. Common for people starting a new job or undertaking a novel task, too much ambition can lead to burnout.

  • Pushing yourself to work harder. Ambition pushes you to work harder.

  • Neglecting your own needs. You begin to sacrifice self-care like sleep, exercise, and eating well.

  • Displacement of conflict. Instead of acknowledging that you’re pushing yourself to the max, you blame your boss, the demands of your job, or colleagues for your troubles.

  • No time for nonwork-related needs. You begin to withdraw from family and friends. Social invitations to parties, movies, and dinner dates start to feel burdensome, instead of enjoyable.

  • Denial. Impatience with those around you mounts. Instead of taking responsibility for your behaviors, you blame others, seeing them as incompetent, lazy, and overbearing.

  • Withdrawal. You begin to withdraw from family and friends. Social invitations to parties, movies, and dinner dates start to feel burdensome, instead of enjoyable.

  • Behavioral changes. Those on the road to burnout may become more aggressive and snap at loved ones for no reason.

  • Depersonalization. Feeling detached from your life and your ability to control your life.

  • Inner emptiness or anxiety. Feeling empty or anxious. You may turn to thrill seeking behaviors to cope with this emotion, such as substance use, gambling, or overeating.

  • Depression. Life loses its meaning and you begin to feel hopeless.

  • Mental or physical collapse. This can impact your ability to cope. Mental health or medical attention may be necessary.

    How to prevent burnout

    Stress may be unavoidable, but burnout is preventable. Following these steps may help you thwart stress from getting the best of you:

    Exercise

    Not only is exercise good for our physical health, but it can also give us an emotional boost.

    Stretched for time? You don’t need to spend hours at the gym to reap these benefits. Mini-workouts and short walks are convenient ways to make exercise a daily habit.

    Eat a balanced diet

    Eating a healthy diet filled with omega-3 fatty acids can be a natural antidepressant. Adding foods rich in omega-3s like flaxseed oil, walnuts, and fish may help give your mood a boost.

    Practice good sleep habits

    Our bodies need time to rest and reset, which is why healthy sleep habits are essential for our well-being.

    According to the National Sleep Foundation, avoiding caffeine before bedtime, establishing a relaxing bedtime ritual, and banning smartphones from the bedroom can help promote sound sleep hygiene.

    Ask for help

    During stressful times, it’s important to reach out for help. If asking for assistance feels difficult, consider developing a self-care “check-in” with close friends and family members so that you can take care of each other during trying times.

  • with thanks to https://www.healthline.com/ for parts of this article

    If you feel you’re suffering from burn out or have any of the symptoms above I am a qualified Stress Management & Burn Out Consultant and will be able to help no matter what stage you are at.



PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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Overcome Fear and Anxiety

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Hypnotherapy can stop worry and apprehension wrecking your life

Do you often feel fearful and anxious even when you know there's nothing to worry about?

Are your thoughts and emotions controlling you, rather than the other way round?

Feeling worried and frightened is extremely unpleasant

Your heart pounds. Your chest feels too tight. Your guts seem to be tied in knots. You break out in a sweat.

You desperately want to run away - but where to? You might feel sick. You can't think straight. You're sure something awful is going to happen.

What is fear for?

This wouldn't be so bad if you really were about to be run over by a bus or eaten by a rampaging lion. Because then you wouldn't be thinking at all.

You'd be jumping aside, or swarming up a tree as fast as you could go. And you'd be so happy to come out alive that you'd hardly notice the sweat, or the knots. This, after all, is what fear is for. It's to galvanize you into instant, immediate, instinctive, life saving action.

If you are really in danger, fear and anxiety are completely appropriate - and useful! - responses.

Why you can feel afraid when you're perfectly safe

But the chances are that you are having these feelings and thoughts somewhere perfectly safe and secure. You are not about to die. You are not about to be attacked. You are likely surrounded by ordinary folk going about their ordinary lives, just like you.

Sure, some of them may be awkward characters, or may even actively dislike you, but dealing with difficult people is an ordinary part of ordinary life.

So how come you always feel so excessively worried and fearful about stuff?

When fear becomes a habit, growing out of control

Well, you may be surprised to learn this, but, like all human responses, feeling afraid and uneasy can become a habit. There may have been times in the past when you've had genuine reasons to feel frightened about what might happen to you, but somehow this feeling has become generalised to lots of situations where it doesn't belong.

And because fear feeds on itself, growing ever bigger by focusing on how bad things could get, it can end up taking over your life, imprisoning you in an iron cage of worry.

Hypnotherapy can break the fear habit for good

Feel like a great weight has lifted from your shoulders

  • Find you are noticeably more relaxed about life in general

  • Are surprisingly quick to learn - and use - the vital emotional control technique at the heart of this session

  • Start using emotional control in more and more different situations

  • Feel much more in command of yourself

  • Enjoy life so much more!

    If you feel that Hypnotherapy or Counselling could really help you, then

    PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

    Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
     
    Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

    Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
    For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
     
    To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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Kimberley on TVM - FitAM

Stop Feeling You're Bad

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Develop a warmer, fairer, more objective view of yourself

Do you sometimes think that, underneath it all, you're a bad person?

Do you believe that, if other people were to see the core of who you are, they would dislike or even hate you for what you've done, thought, or felt?

It's easy to let these feelings affect your self-worth.

Have you ever wondered why you feel this way, or when it started? You may not be able to pinpoint when your sense of self-worth plummeted. It may seem like you've always felt this way. But these feelings are not an intrinsic part of who you are, and they can be overcome.

Low self-worth is almost always learned

If you feel that you’re a bad person, it’s likely because you have been taught to feel that way, though even people who grew up without pressure to conform or excel can develop this kind of thinking if they grew up around someone who was self-critical. It’s an easy habit to pick up!

At some point in your life, you may have been treated in such a way that you came to believe that the value of your life depends on whether you meet certain standards, or look or behave a certain way.

If you grew up with sky-high expectations or without unconditional love, it’s no surprise you feel this way. You’ve essentially been taught that unless you accomplish certain things — high test scores, a prestigious career, perfect behaviour — you are not worthy of love and praise. As the chronic feelings of failure mount, they may translate to a sense that, deep down, you’re simply bad.

But here’s the thing.

No one can live up to unrealistic expectations

The truth is, even the most accomplished people have flaws. The most honourable people you can think of, every role model, every tremendously accomplished individual — they’re all imperfect. Everyone has moments in their lives when they’ve failed to meet their own standards, or society’s expectations of model behaviour.

Even people who seemingly have everything experience the same negative emotions that you do at times. Everyone feels jealousy. Everyone experiences regret. Everyone has felt twinges of doubt. It’s part of being human. It’s baked into the experience.

But when you’ve been treated like you don’t have value and are not worth caring about, these perceived “failures” are magnified. You start to believe you deserve to be treated this way. And the longer you believe it, the more it comes to “make sense.” You focus on your flaws, taking these as irrefutable evidence of your intrinsic “badness.” Reality takes a back seat as you become more and more convinced.

Hypnotherapy can help to;

realise that your worth as a person is not tied to your accomplishments

  • develop a much fairer and more accurate view of yourself

  • accept yourself just as you are

  • feel more relaxed and confident in general.

    PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

    Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
     
    Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

    Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
    For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
     
    To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

     

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Kimberley on TVM - FitAM

How to Accept Yourself For Who You Really Are

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Self acceptance becomes easier when you're honest with yourself. Here's how Hypnotherapy can help.

'Self acceptance' may sound like giving up and stopping efforts to improve yourself. But it is not that at all.

Self acceptance - seeing yourself as you really are (and that's a much nicer experience than it might sound!), is the essential beginning to becoming who you want to be.

Real self acceptance gives you a solid foundation upon which to build yourself into who you want to become. Without that foundation, you may be building a house of cards.

And self acceptance is not just about appreciating your good points - it is more about being honest about your less commendable traits - without feeling guilty or inadequate because of them.

Stop pretending to be something you're not

This is self acceptance and when you truly accept yourself for who you are, without feeling you have to pretend all the time, then paradoxically, your self confidence takes a massive leap.

Self acceptance doesn't mean not striving to improve and change but it does mean making allowances for yourself sometimes, knowing your natural weaker points and accepting them whilst remembering your strong points.

Once you truly accept yourself, you will waste no energy or time on self deception or deceiving others and you will develop clarity as to just what needs improving.

How hypnotherapy can help you accept yourself

We tend to avoid being honest with ourselves because we're scared of what we'll find. That perhaps we won't live up to our long-held cherished ideas about ourselves. Or to what we think are other people's ideas of us.

These feelings are created by the unconcious mind, and so that's where we need to start work. And that's where hypnotherapy comes in.

Hypnotherapy is the art of communicating with the unconscious mind and the and will gently allow you to see yourself as you are and be fully accepting of yourself.

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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How Can Hypnotherapy Help with Generalised Anxiety Disorder.

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Why not try Hypnotherapy for anxiety and you can feel calm today

Are you often overwhelmed by worry and anxiety, even when there is no major cause for concern in your life?

Do you wonder where all those nebulous stomach churning fears spring from and how you can stop them?

Constant worry is debilitating and exhausting

Whether you are fretting about real and pressing problems that you have to solve or whether your mind is full of fears and fantasies about what might go wrong, the effect is the same.

You can't think straight, you feel tense and stressed, your digestion plays up, you can't sleep, you feel sick and there seems no way out. It's a nightmare.

The constant state of 'red alert'

People often compare the state of generalised anxiety to being on constant 'red alert'. It feels as if there is an immediate 'threat' out there.

You are constantly on the look out, even though you don't know what you are looking for, or what you will do if you find it. The comparison is a good one.

It's as if your 'danger sensor' has been set to trip at too low a point. Everything starts to feel threatening.

The vicious spiral of worry

And of course the human danger sensor is not a piece of digital equipment that you can just reset with the flick of a switch. It has an internal feedback mechanism that's regulated by your emotions.

So the more you worry... the more you worry. It's a vicious spiral, but not irreversible.

Because the good news is that this feedback loop works both ways. The less you worry... the less you worry, and the spiral becomes your friend. Hypnotherapy can imprint that positive feedback at an unconscious level and prevent excessive worrying from returning.

How Hypnotherapy for Anxiety will make you;

  • feel more relaxed than you have felt in a long time or ever

  • experience a growing sense of calm in your mind and body

  • begin to develop a new perspective in your mind

  • find it easier to deal with what needs to be dealt with

  • become more able to set concerns aside and enjoy life

  • learn how to prevent excessive worry from returning.

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME 

Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION.  
 
Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom 

Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions. 
For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here 
 
To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

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Kimberley on TVM - FitAM

Overcome Insecurity in Your Relationships

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How we use Hypnotherapy to conquer your fears so you can enjoy your life together

Is your insecurity in relationships threatening to ruin a specific relationship?

Does your fear it will all go wrong lead you to sabotage your chances?

Why relationship insecurity is so painful

Relationships are the most important thing for most people, so it's no surprise that we feel a certain amount of anxiety when we suspect that a relationship is under threat, or when we can't bring ourselves to really believe that this other person truly loves us.

Of course, no relationship is completely trouble free. There will be arguments, there will be stresses and pressures, there will be tough times. But you hope that a well-founded relationship will be strong enough to carry you through such tests.

Past history can contribute to relationship insecurity

The trouble is, sometimes, perhaps because of previous bad experiences you've had, the level of anxiety you feel about your relationship can get so high that the anxiety itself starts to generate problems.

It becomes a cause of trouble rather than a consequence of trouble. And then you really are in trouble, caught in a spiral of painful emotion that leads you to interpret every single thing as a sign that the end is nigh.

Even if it isn't.

How can you calm down your fears so that you can relax with your partner and roll with life's challenges together?

How hypnotherapy can help you feel more secure

The emotions that drive that feeling of insecurity come from your unconscious mind. In other words, you don't decide to feel that way.

And so, to address them, we need to work directly with the unconscious, which is where hypnotherapy comes in.

After hypnotherapy, you'll notice that:

  • you can 'step back' and see the relationship as a whole

  • you feel less need to control everything about the relationship

  • you focus more on the positive aspects

  • you can cope more easily with the ups and downs

  • you relax and enjoy yourself much more with your partner.

    PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME

    Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION. 

    Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom

    Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions.
    For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here

    To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

Kimberley on TVM - FitAM

Kimberley on TVM - FitAM


Overcome Rejection Sensitivity

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Become more confident and discover better ways to connect with others

Do you find yourself on high alert for even the smallest sign of rejection when talking with others?

Do you have a tendency to anxiously replay conversations in your head, wondering what exactly someone meant?

Everyone wants to feel accepted and welcomed. It's human nature. We are social animals, and relationships are important to us. They help us understand the world and ourselves. So it's no wonder feeling rejected hurts so badly.

No one likes to feel rejected. But for some people, this very natural response is dialed up.

Being sensitive to rejection can make you feel anxious and lead to unpleasant overthinking. You may feel as though you are constantly on the lookout for signs that someone dislikes you. You may convince yourself that any negative or non-enthusiastic part of a conversation was caused by you. You might even feel that your friends or family members are slow to reply to your text messages because they are mad at you.

The niggling thoughts that plague you keep on coming even when you know they're not real. You may know on a logical level that your friend didn't reply because they are busy at work, that your brother is in a grumpy mood because he didn't sleep well, or that a co-worker is always negative. But you just can't stop yourself from feeling like it's personal.

But as deeply ingrained as these responses and feelings may seem, there is hope.

Living with rejection sensitivity

For many people, rejection sensitivity starts at a young age. Perhaps you didn't feel supported. Maybe you felt a particularly harsh rejection that stuck with you. Or maybe you didn't grow up in an environment that gave you self-confidence. Whatever the origins of your sensitivity to rejection, the effects can be significant and debilitating.

Excessive sensitivity to rejection can often stop you from building meaningful relationships, as you may end up pushing people away before they get too close in an effort to protect yourself. And if you are constantly seeking reassurance from friends or family members, it can also take its toll on the close relationships you do have.

You may even end up deciding that having close friendships is simply not worth it. Rather than face the anxiety of inviting someone to a movie or restaurant, or even just to your home for a cup of tea, you may decide it's easier to do things alone.

But of course, in the long term this kind of approach is not sustainable. A lack of close relationships can lead to intense loneliness and sadness. Ultimately, it all adds up to a less healthy, fulfilling, and enjoyable life.

How Hypnotherapy can help

As you relax and listen , you'll notice that you:

  • Feel more at ease with yourself

  • Can stop over analysing people's words

  • Are more easy going in your relationships, and enjoy them more

  • Are better able to relax and give new friendships time to develop.

    PLEASE FEEL FREE TO CONTACT ME

    Please contact Kimberley if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION. 

    Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom

    Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions.
    For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here

    To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.

Kimberley on TVM - FitAM

Kimberley on TVM - FitAM

How to Overcome Anticipatory Anxiety

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Calm down your worries about future events with Hypnotherapy

Is most of your worrying just anticipatory anxiety about the future, rather than concerns about what's actually going on now?

Do you get eaten up with dread about upcoming events and how they will turn out?

Your ability to imagine a goal in life, and to work out detailed plans to deal with obstacles, is a truly valuable resource. Deciding what you'll do if things go wrong is key to effective planning. It would be downright silly to assume everything will always go smoothly. Flights will be delayed, rain will fall on garden parties, people will forget what they were going to say, tomato sauce will get spilled over you...

It happens to everyone.

Too much thinking leads to anticipatory anxiety

The trouble is, when you spend too much time thinking too closely about everything that could go wrong, the famous mind-body connection goes into overdrive. Your worrying thoughts can trigger the actual physical emotions that would accompany those unfortunate events. Your heart rate rises, adrenaline floods into your bloodstream, and your body gets ready to face what it believes is a real and present danger.

When really it's all in your imagination.

Now obviously, it doesn't make sense to say you should just stop preparing for future events, and planning for negative eventualities, altogether. That would be likely to bring you some perfectly real (as opposed to imaginary!) difficulties.

What's needed is a way to think about eventualities (good or bad) calmly. A way to calm down any emotional response that gets triggered, so you can stay detached, make sensible plans, and then get on with your life.

And Hypnotherapy is a brilliant way for you to do just that.

Hypnosis can help you calm down unnecessary fears

  • find yourself becoming much more relaxed about life in general

  • learn how to take command of your emotional responses

  • become more and more skilled at calming and quieting troubling thoughts

  • are no longer at the mercy of unpleasant emotions

  • can think much more clearly and effectively about helpful ways to prepare for upcoming events

  • enjoy life so much more.

    If You feel that Hypnotherapy can help you overcome your Anxiety, then

    Please contact Me if you have any questions or to make an initial CONSULTATION. 

    Face To Face  sessions are by appointment only. Appointments are available 6 days a week and also in the evenings at our discreet premises in Mellieha, Sliema & Naxxar in Malta. Or online by skype or Zoom

    Please note for sessions in Naxxar clients have access to the pool and a towel after and before their sessions.
    For a list of problems I may be able to help you with please click here

    To Arrange YOUR INITIAL SESSION Please contact Kimberley by Whatsapp or Phone on 00356 99355901.